New Years Resolutions…I think we can all say we do it. We start the year with grand ambitions of all the things we are going to change, how we are going to lose weight, get organized, give more to charity and spend more time just “enjoying life”. Yes? And New Years day comes, and we make our list, and by February 1st that list is no where to found and we only have a vague recollection of what was actually on it. All those plans fade away as we realize we might have been a little TOO ambitious and before we know it we have turned the corner on this amazing year we were going to have and it is right back to all the old ways we hated so much.
I can’t lie… that list above is my list for the year. All the things I HATE about the New Year and I made it my mission to succeed in all these things. There is something wrong in this mommy-brain of mine! But instead of making one BIG list of these insanely crazy feats that I know I won’t actually accomplish, I changed the way I am looking at my new years goals in hopes that seeing them in a different light will help me make them a reality.
1 – Lose weight. Yea, I know, we all say it but few of us do it. So instead of leaving it at “lose weight” I made myself a plan. I pulled out my yearly planner (the one I can’t live without) and made some check points along the way. I know what my ulitmate end goal is, and I know my own abilities. So on Monday of every week (from now until May 1st, then I will reevaluate and do it again for the next few months) I wrote myself a little positive note and made a check point for myself. Saying “I want to lose 50 pounds” is daunting, and most of us aren’t able to see the small progress when we are so focused on the end result. I plan to celebrate my successes and not beaet myself up completely over small set backs. LifLIFE HAPPENS, we need to learn to roll with it (thats another resolution all on its own!!)
2 – Get organized. HA! If you know me at all you are probably laughing because I am a little bit OCD and most people tell me that I am more organized in my everyday life than they are on their best days. And while I agree that I am usually pretty on top of things, I also know that my system needs some refining. It isn’t exactly working for me as well as it used to and I know I need it needs a style update. I made myself an “organization” checklist. I am working on a project I like to call “52 Weeks of organization”, where I plan to take one task each week and knock it off the list. Of course I didn’t make the list for all 52 weeks at first, I picked my Spring List – things I plan to get done between now and May – and am picking ONE thing on that list to do every week. I didn’t assign specific weeks to each thing because sometimes LIFE HAPPENS and we have to adjust. So if I end up with a super busy week I can pick a smaller task like cleaning out a couple cabinets in my kitchen that need attention, or working on clearing out my linen closet. And on weeks that I have extra money available, and more free time, I can take on the task of painting the bathroom, or putting cabinets in my laundry room!
3 – Give more to Charity. I was raised knowing that I was blessed and my mother taught us that if we are able to give, we should. That doesn’t have to be money, that can time too. So this year I am getting back to all the things I have always loved doing! I am rededicating myself to Relay For Life, a fundraiser for the American Cancer Society that I have been a part of for the last 12 years, and I am planning on giving a weekend to Hospice, where I used to be a counselor at a Bereavement Camp for Kids. I MISS those things, they were a part of me for so long, and I feel like those things helped chape me into the adult I am today. I am losing sight of some things that were always important to me and I want them back! I got out of touch of things when LIFE HAPPENED but I am reconnecting this year! (I already got a jump start on this one, I have sent an email to the volunteer dept at Hospice asking for all the info and dates for this years camp!! SO. EXCITED)
4 – Spend more time ENJOYING life. The OCD inside me makes it nearly impossible to see the beauty in the small things because I am always “dealing” with something that is out of place or not done to my standards. I spend more of my day stressed out than I do enjoying the day. My babies are growing and learning and becoming these actual little PEOPLE, with their own personalities and opinions and ideas, and I am missing that. I want to spend more time PLAYING with them. This might mean some therapy for me to learn how to deal with the OCD in a better way than I have been handling it for many years. But I am willing to do whatever it takes. I am also going to take some time for MYSELF. I love being mommy and wife but there comes a time when I need to love being ME, and doing things that I enjoy. So this year I am making regular “dates” with my momma, one of my favorite people to be around, to work on scrap books. This is something we both love to do and have a great time when we get to do it together.
The motto for this year is LIFE HAPPENS. I have to learn how to roll with the punch when they start falling my way, and I need to make it a point to let the good stuff happen, and enjoy it when it comes!